Lose interest-- help for motivation?

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Lose interest-- help for motivation?

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Hey all-- newbie here, question hoping to see updated in 2013.. How do you guys all gather the courage to eat your own cum? I really want to do it, but I lose interest right after cumming... I have tried eating from my hand and also shooting legs over head (which sometimes I can do) but it's still hard.. how do you motivate yourself? How do you make yourself feel like it's so yummy and slutty even after u explode?

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i save it in a container for next time i selfsuck. usually keeep it in fridge. personally i love the taste of cold cum.
i love cum

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Have you tried edging? With practice you can shoot multiple loads without having your final complete orgasm. It's a great way to stay in the horny zone while you squirt in your mouth and swallow.

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I guess that it's an acquired taste. I first started to swallow my cum as a teen because I thought that my parents would get suspicious of all the tissues I was using. So, if I cum in my mouth, there is no question about swallowing or not.
However, if I came in my hand or anywhere else, I also lost interest. Swallowing my own cum became a habit when I forced myself to do it.
If I came in my hand I would lap it up as quickly as possible, thus reducing the time between the moment of ejactulating and the cum beeing in my mouth. That way, it would be in my mouth before I could loose interest.
Once in your mouth, there is two options :
keeping it there, ajusting yourself to the taste. It will slowly mix with your saliva and you will end up swallowing bits by bits.
The second option is to swallow in one big gulp as quickly as possible. Try doing this every day for a week and it will simply become a habit.

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There are ways to trick yourself into swallowing it but that doesn't help your desire to swallow it. So to respond to your question: "How do you make yourself feel like it's so yummy and slutty even after u explode?" I don't, but I know if I swallow my cum when I lost the urge then when I get horny again ill be turned on knowing i drank it and not throwed it away. Also, when i am in the chat room jerking off with my cam on, its much harder for me to back down when another guy is expecting me to drink my cum. And then when i do drink it I'm very pleased to hear how turned on it was for them to see that.

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I am fully back to swallowing my cum daily primarily thru self-sucking. sometimes I cum in a glass, but most of the time I cum straight in my mouth which I find is the best way I like to enjoy my cum. I treat my cum as the pleasure of the orgasm. its also great to cum in a glass then as the mood hits again, to either enjoy small amounts of the cum or just keep the entire load in my mouth while I'm stroking for more. its great to swallow, right as I shoot another load into a shot glass and then that cum for me tastes soo good.

enjoy and swallow your own cum regularly. I know when I quit for awhile and several months back I had the mad desire to enjoy my cum again the moment my cum hit my tongue straight out of my cock and I swallowed, I realized I had my own treat that I missed and I told myself I was not going to waste another drop or miss out on a daily treat. if I don't swallow my cum for a few days though due to work and such. I then go a bit crazy because as soon as I stroke a load out and swallow, I am usually then apt to keep stroking or licking my cock for as many and as much cum as I can get out of it. however for the most part I have found that if I just stay consistent and swallow my cum as I wake up and enjoy my cock then as I work all day and then make it home, I can relax and then suck my cock with my legs over my head and as the cum flows I I just think about my cum as my daily delicious reward.

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Hey guys-- thanks for the help :)

I've been sorta off the eat your own cum thing for a while, only because I wanted to do 'No Fap', I felt it was hard for me to maintain an erection or cum while with my girlfriend, so I stopped watching the porn and masturbating for several months. Needless to say, that helped me get back into good standing with my girlfriend as now we can have sex and I can ejaculate inside her (it still takes a lot of effort though on my part lol).

I miss the days of watching porn though and fantasizing about eating my own cum. When I'm by myself, I don't really look at porn, but I feel tempted all the time to jerk off. Do you think I could still fantasize about solo suck and eating sperm while by myself-- or would I be better off avoiding it altogether so I can keep my relationship with my gf healthy? For the record, she isn't a big sperm drinker, but I love everything else about her. I feel though, it's kinda hard for me to keep this 'fetish' to myself and not do anything with it. Should I just man up and let it go-- not really a big deal?

Lol-- sorry if this sounds a bit philosophical and stuff, just I miss being on these forums and talking about this stuff as well as doing some of it every now and then (not all the time because I think porn in too much use is bad for the mind and relationships). Would be good to hear from you guys though on your take, what your sex lives are like and how often you do this 'fetish' when not with a partner..

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nickyricky wrote:I miss the days of watching porn though and fantasizing about eating my own cum. When I'm by myself, I don't really look at porn, but I feel tempted all the time to jerk off.
This is a very good sign of a healthy amount of libido. Whatever you've been doing for the last while, keep at it. Don't change your routine; stay off the porn and keep at it.

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Hey Ricky,

Sounds like No FAP has been a good thing for you so far. I only have problems with it when it starts to sound moralistic/religious - like you should feel guilty or bad or that porn is inherently bad. If you use it as a tool to help you to get where you want to be and it works for you that's great.

If you think you can reintroduce some amount of solo pleasure and not have it interfere with your relationship then go ahead and give it a try. Maybe make an agreement with yourself about how much/now often. You know you have the will power to stop - see if you can extend that to a disciplined solo practice. Will power really is like a muscle - the more exercise it gets the stronger it is.

Is talking with your GF about you eating your own loads an option? If she's open-minded maybe it could be a part of your sex life with her, at least occasionally.

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Yeah I think guys are right-- maybe I should continue doing No Fap, I guess the more important thing is to be able to have a good relationship with my gf. No point in being a guy who can't get it up at all because of too much porn messing up the mind.. (it's not a religious thing tho for me)

Al, I can probably talk about it with my gf, she doesn't seem to care if I cum on her face and kiss her afterwards. I tried it a few times, and she just thought it was hot. I'm just nervous about revealing the whole big thing where I like to shoot on my own face alone lol (don't wanna scare her off making her think I'm full blown gay or something). I feel like maybe I can do some of this in baby steps..

As far as willpower to continue to have solo pleasure without her, I feel like it might be too early for me at least. I'm still working on detoxing the porn I watched outta my system for all the years affecting my brain and ability to perform with others. In the past too, I had problems getting it up with previous girls. I blame it mainly on being addicted to all the TS / Sissy porn out there that hypnotizes you into wanting to be a sissy cocksucker haha. For a while, I could only get hard if I watched hundreds of cumshots on girls faces and listened to the hypnotic sounds telling me to be a cocksucker (even tho I consider myself straight, I felt tempted at times to wanna be a bit gay). If I go back to fapping, I could probably slip down back into that pretty fast and destroy any progress I made with NoFap.

So that's why I got involved in NoFap. I think I need a few more months to a year before I can probably say hey-- I'm cured now, I can get it up for girls, and still enjoy a good fap on my own too without destroying the whole thing lol... (right now if I cum on my own, if I can't get off with my gf, she knows I masturbated alone lol). Even if I have some gay tendencies, I want to find a way to be able to either keep them dormant or use them in a way where I don't have to compromise my real life relationships for internet relationships.

** Again sorry for long post lol -- thanks for your guys' help **

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No Fap is a good idea, I did it like 6 months ago (except only half a month). Helps clear your head. Also, it was super hot to swallow my HUGE two-week load after that! :) I just kept shooting and shooting this delicious, creamy cum in my mouth, spurt after spurt, and gulping it down! I filmed it too, here's a link: http://xhamster.com/movies/2449368/cumm ... inute.html
I'm on xHamster with lots of cum swallowing videos and my username is ThickSaltyandSweet also there :)

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ThickSaltyandSweet wrote:No Fap is a good idea, I did it like 6 months ago (except only half a month). Helps clear your head. Also, it was super hot to swallow my HUGE two-week load after that! :) I just kept shooting and shooting this delicious, creamy cum in my mouth, spurt after spurt, and gulping it down! I filmed it too, here's a link: http://xhamster.com/movies/2449368/cumm ... inute.html
So far so good with the NoFap stuff-- it's getting easier to fuck my girl and cum through penetration. NoFap really is helpful for getting your libido back..

I re-read through the comments above and also your comment too (@ThickSaltyandSweet), and perhaps I might be okay if I fap like once a week solo time-- if I can develop the willpower like Al mentioned. Since things are going fine with my girlfriend, and I see her about once a week now, I can probably bust inside her if I abstain for most of the week before I see her. Maybe like 1 day a week I can just solo fap to something like this-- and keep it that way until I have good command over my self control and can still appreciate sex with her as well. (Because sex with her still feels really good too).

I'll test out something for now and see how I do over the next few weeks-- if it fucks up, I'll just report it on here so you guys can view my progress. (Btw great video too @ThickSaltyandSweet, very hot). I'll know it went wrong if I have less libido or struggle to keep an erection with her. As it stands though, I can probably cum about 2 times a day either through sex or masturbation. If I masturbate more than 3 times in a day though, it takes me like 2 days to recharge and get my libido back. When I have sex with my girl, I usually cum the first time through vaginal sex, then go another round before finishing off on her face or boobs (at that time it's me masturbating). She's usually satisfied by then, but we also don't really have sex again until like a day or so later. So if I want to satisfy her, I basically just need to stop masturbating for like 2-3 days and I'm good to go again with her. (That's what I've learned so far from NoFap). The other days I can just mess around a bit, so that's where I'll just experiment around.

Honestly though, I feel the mind ultimately controls the orgasm-- like part of it is the physical sensation you get from penetration or rubbing one out, but it's also majorly about what you are thinking about at the moment. For me it's either one of two things-- a hot girl with nice boobs bouncing on my cock to pleasureville, or a hot load streaming down a face (mine or hers). So I guess if I can make my sessions with my partner or myself about those things that really turn me on, I think I can orgasm in either situation.

Getting started again :D

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Hello, I too have struggled with the loss of libido when shooting. Unlike Al, I'm no master at edging either. I have of course enjoyed teasing out a fair quantity of pre-cum on many occasions, and I always eat that sweet sticky nectar. I even occasionally manage a little taste of real jizz, via a small degree of edging.

Up until a few days ago the latter was the best I'd ever managed, with one particularly memorable load (which I filmed as well) where I shot about three pretty full squirts into my mouth and swallowed, whilst edging, before releasing the whole payload and - as always - losing the desire to swallow. That was a one-off, and probably occurred about 6-8 years ago.

Anyway, some time ago I discovered these alleged 'sissy hypnosis' videos, in which a woman's voice talks you through various scenarios, sometimes just as audio, and sometimes with accompanying video. One or two particularly turned me on.

The one I really dig concerns eating one's own cum, and is by Isabella Valentine. I found it by searching for 'cum eating hypnosis' on Google. I don't know that I'm really being hypnotised as such, it's just an arousal aid, a stimulant, and it took a lot of listening to it (i.e. many unsuccessful attempts) before I hit the jackpot. And so far it's just the once.

But a few days ago I got real horned up, and, for once, my libido and the audio aligned, and I shot my whole wad into my waiting mouth (not at all unusual) and actually swallowed most of it (massively and totally unusual!).

The version of these now quite widespread hypnosis things that I found was free on some other site with a name like 'erotichypnosis', or similar. In the end I stripped out the audio track and slowed it down. For some reason slowing it down made it more trancey and seductive. I also wore a metal cock ring and had something up my ass. I think part of the key to suck-cess for me was getting massively aroused before playing the track.

Actually I had been planning to shoot my goo into a shot-glass and drink it down at a later time, once horned up again. But something told me I was ready to go the whole hog straight off. So I did. Oddly the whole business was somewhat, pardon the pun, anticlimactic, in that swallowing my own load (or at least most of it) wasn't as hornifying as I'd hoped it might be.

But at least I managed it, which is a first for me, after many, many years of trying. It also gives me faith that I can cross the rubicon, and that with sufficient perseverance I might someday be happily basting my face and chops on a regular basis.

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for me swallowing my own cum straight when I shoot into my mouth is part of my orgasm. I enjoy the unique after taste that lingers for several moments and as I realize I just swallowed my cum. I've shot cum into shot glasses to build up a larger amount.... but for me nothing is better then when several streams blast onto my tongue.... pool and I swallow. then afterwards licking those last few drops that flow out of the tip. those are the best... I'd let two really good loads of cum sit in a shot glass a while back thinking I was going to get a third. when I did get that third cum I was working it out so hard.... it was smaller amount that tasted really good as I shot it straight in... but then when I decided to enjoy those first two nice loads of cum all at once... it was good stuff... nice wonderful volume, but as it sat for that hour or so... the flavor just wasn't the same. I've swallowed my cum enough to know... I realized I should have just enjoyed my cum as it flowed.... and that is what I do now... I don't waste it and I don't let it sit. for me its best the moment I feel it streaming onto my tongue.

for me, when I backed off for months and stopped swallowing.... the moment I got the urge to enjoy my cum.... the first thing that went thru my mind is why did I waste so much time when I have this daily treat. I luv my cum early in the morning and then after work.

I solo in the plow position so that gravity rewards. stroke and steady lick my tip... then shoot straight in...savor swallow, then work those drops...

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long before I discovered this site. I was looking for a way to enjoy my cum... shot glasses, in my hand, tried it all. can't remember just when, but the thought occurred... if I could only cum in my mouth straight. I self discovered the plow position. I wasn't even thinking about giving myself a blow job.... I just thought hey if I could shoot straight and then as the cum went to the back of my tongue I could enjoy. I have what are memorable "cum" moments. I had to steady my cock as I was stroking upside down... it was a bit different.... but then I figured it out. I said to myself I've got to relax and I had my feet on my bed wall. as I moved my cock into position I said this will be good. at that point all I had to do was stroke and open wide when the orgasm hit. cum flowed straight down.. hit my tongue and the back of my throat. I couldn't swallow in this position so as I flipped back up... i realized I had what I wanted.... and as I swallowed... I started stroking for more. the thought that went thru my mind was.... that was really good.... I want to try it again...

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