Hey all-- saw some new comments on the thread, so I thought I'd also go ahead and talk about my progress lol.
As it stands now, I can get erect and keep a good hard-on for a couple hours with my partner. I can finish inside her pussy, eat her out or have her suck me off and share a cum load. It's the most amazing feeling in the world, lol. Almost a year ago, I could barely get it up and maintain a hard-on while having sex. I needed like constant visual stimulation and porn level like thoughts to even bust a nut (which would sometimes take hours). In contrast, I could jizz all over myself within 2 minutes just watching CEI videos and cumshots to the mouth (guys or girls).
I have to say, doing NoFap really did help me. I would do it off and on for periods of time; just so I could train my brain to go out and find dates (was girlfriendless when I first started and most girls I sexed told me I was terrible after the first few dates, so that sorta became my motivating factor to keep off the porn). Eventually the NoFap stuff started helping me, and I began to associate other things as just as sexy as eating my own cum (e.g. eating pussy, sucking tits, making out).
Fast forward to last month, I started watching some CEI videos again-- (mainly because my gf was gone for a month visiting family in Asia). I decided to take Al's advice and limit my masturbation time to once or twice a week. I got back into the eating cum addiction I once had lol. (I enjoy the plow position the most, so after a few drinks-- I would watch my favorite scenes and bust all over my face and mouth).
However, the thing that helped was I limited myself to doing it a few times a week. The other times, I would not masturbate at all. Just because I didn't want to overdo the NoFap thing-- I guess in doing it this way, I was still able to keep a boner for all the days I didn't masturbate, think about how much I wanted to fuck my girlfriend (because I missed kissing, tits, pussy, etc), but also know I could have release up to two times a week every week (like a cheat meal). Eventually though, I just decided to say fuck it-- bought a ticket to see my girlfriend in Asia, and I really really fucked her brains out-- missing all those other things I could do too in sex.
We had a lot of sex, and more than anything I was really really horny for her too (I missed the pussy, making out, tits, etc). I decided though to combine the CEI stuff with sexing her. After busting a nut on her, I cleaned her off with my tongue. She was shocked at first, but when I said it's better than wasting tissue paper to clean it up-- she agreed with me, and now loves watching me eat it off her. Since she likes cum too, she will occasionally finish me off after a bit of S&M, vibrator and fellatio-- which leads to her getting cum in her mouth which we both share.
All in all-- I think at this point, I'm pretty much in great shape. I think libido is definitely in the mind-- one just has to find stuff they enjoy on the regular to get hard for and also release. For me I just think about my girlfriend and all the crazy sex we have together. I feel like eating my own cum is a part of what makes my relationship work with her lol; because she also enables me to do so-- for anyone who wants this kind of relationship, I would say they should definitely bring the cum fetish up early early on in the relationship so you know if your partner likes it too, or if not-- you can dump them fast and go on to the next cum swallower lol. Once you find them, enjoy your cum with them as much as possible, that will make you harder-- (if you're gay and have a boyfriend, well enjoy each others' cum as much as possible too lol). Those thoughts will make you hard enough that even if you're on your own and jerking off to a hot porn scene, you'll still want to do it with your partner in real life too