How to get past that mental block?

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How to get past that mental block?

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During masturbation I love the thought of swallowing my own cum. I love tasting my precum but right before I'm about to cum I always lose interest at the last second. Any tips to get past this?

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Re: How to get past that mental block?

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Two common methods: One is to master the art of edging. Bring yourself just to the edge of orgasm without going over. If you time it right, you can edge out a full load of cum without actually climaxing. Then you can eat your cum to your heart's content while continuing to masturbate to your final orgasm.

The other method is to freeze your cum, then thaw it out later when you're horny again. You can find many tips here on freezing and thawing your cum.

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Re: How to get past that mental block?

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Edging and freezing definitely works, but the problem with freezing is that the taste and texture aren't the same. With edging, you're really only cumming bit by bit. The only method of getting it all without the post cum blues is by shooting the entire load directly into your mouth by throwing your legs over your head and let it rain! Of course, you'll need pretty good aim, though I've managed to get it all many times (got it on camera too, watching the cum slide down my tongue and hit the back of the throat is really hot)

However, I did come across someone give some insight as to why we back out after cumming;
Hormones can cause you to think all kinds of things. Guys ask similar questions about women and why they say yes to something during sex, but afterward say no to it. Hence also the advice to not discuss matters of sex during sex. Leave the discussion of new ideas for after the hormones have subsided.

Sexual acts release endorphins into your blood. Endorphins have been equated to opiates being in your blood -- i.e. a very good round of sex produces similar pleasurable effects as a hit of heroin. Ladies, this is also why the excuse "I've got a headache" doesn't hold weight: orgasms relieve pain, as many women who've had sex or masturbated during their menstrual cycles know.

Anyway, along with the opiate effects, it can also have a diminishing effect on one's inhibitions. Yes this can make it possible for either a guy or girl to agree to something during sex they otherwise wouldn't do. For a guy it might be performing fellatio on another guy or, in your case, eating his own cum, and for a woman it might be lesbian activities or anal sex. This is similar to how a woman could be so drunk or high that she doesn't remember consenting to sex or a sexual act she otherwise wouldn't perform, or she does remember and is still repulsed by the thought even though it actually happened.

Now why does your mind change when you've actually had your orgasm? Simple, the endorphins die away almost immediately, and your inhibitions return pretty quickly as well. This is why some men and women can go about their business if they've had sex for breakfast or lunch as if nothing happened. This is also why you once again find the idea of eating cum repulsing once the orgasm has died away.

One question you might ask is this: if endorphins are like opiates (heroin, morphine, and the like), then why can't you become addicted to your own endorphins? The simple reason is that your endorphins aren't interacting with the receptors in your nervous system long enough to cause an addiction, and that because your body already knows how to break them down and flush them from your system. Actual opiates are a different story. Those take longer to flush out, and as such, can cause addiction even with minor use.

Well hopefully this long-winded explanation has answered your question.
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Re: How to get past that mental block?

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Like the other guys say, edging works, but takes some time and practice. If you really feel determined to try it you can throw your legs over your head and shoot it into your mouth,like in this video (one of my favorites): http://www.tube8.com/gay/amateur/cum-in ... h/2197971/ That's definitely the easiest and quickest way to do it, but you still have to be determined.

That's how I first did it. I was exactly like you and thought about doing it, but would chicken out. So then one day my roommate was gone and I was determined to try it. So I shot it in my mouth and got every single drop. From then on I would do that from time to time until eventually I just started eating from my hand.

Anyway, I hope you keep us informed!

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Another good method is to cum in shot glass. Then watch a killer cum swallowing girl. Take the shot of cum and enjoy and swallow when the girl.swallows. my favorite is spam the cumtrai.er. dalihla strong close.second

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For several years I would do the legs over my head but like everyone else most times
I would chicken out.
One day sitting around thinking about it I decided no matter what I would swallow
every load.
It took a lot of mental control in the beginning forcing myself not to quit.
But I have been swallowed every load since then and it has been about 10 years now.
Out of my hand, with food, from a glass. It doesn't matter anymore.


Now for the hardest part.
That is to share with my wife.
It was easier getting over the mental block of swallowing than it is to
share with the wife.
She hasn't blown me in years and when she did she would not let cum get anywhere near her face.
If she didn't hate cum like she does I am sure I could come clean with her much easier.

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I've been off and on about eating my cum-- I held off for a while doing NoFap (so I could get better erections while having sex), then after that-- just started balancing in solo sessions-- 'me time' as of the last few months where I'd masturbate to my favorite porn (usually cum eating) and eat my cum at the end too.

It's difficult sometimes because I feel like I'm weird for having this fetish. My girlfriend will give me a nice blowjob and swallow occasionally, but she isn't as big on eating cum as I am, lol. She knows I like to eat my own cum, so sometimes during sex she'll let me eat it off her after I ejaculate. Other times, she's like-- "you're on your own with that fetish pal~, just be sure you don't over masturbate and have no energy left to fuck me". So yeah, that's why I only masturbate a few times a week by myself... if the gf comes over, I need to be ready lol. So yah, the weirdness comes from me thinking eh-- is this really worth the effort?

Still, I love watching cum facials and reading this forum when I'm alone. I definitely do like the taste of cum, which I will gobble up if I'm edging. But my favorite way to cum is legs over head into my mouth, cum splattering on my face. I also like to watch or listen to hypnosis videos/audios prior to the legs over head method. Having a bit of alcohol to buzz my brain helps too, because then I can shut off my logical mind and really get into the desire to have a good session. I also do dress up a bit-- I dunno, I'm not a crossdresser or anything, but I always feel it's easier to be a cum slut when I'm 'not me'. I'll usually get some dry erase markers (brown color or black), and put freckles on my face, style my hair differently, and wear colored contacts, with white high socks. It's funny, because when I look at myself in the mirror thereafter, I'm like-- haha who is that? Then with glass in hand (wine, sake, beer, whatever), I'll get into the part-- maybe I'm a gay boy tonight, or maybe I'm a bi whore-- whatever. It helps if you have friends who are just as kinky as you online-- (I don't know anybody in real life like this-- that's why I'm exploring fetlife at the moment and screening out all the creepy people). However, if you have friends online who have cum fetishes, they might also roleplay with you too and eat their cum with you at the same time.

After the orgasm, I usually return back to 'normal' me-- which then wants to quickly shower and undo all the makeup, contacts, delete browsing history, etc lol. I usually vow I'm never going to do this kind of 'thing' again, but after a week-- it usually creeps back up on me. It's fucking weird as hell haha. For years I've struggled too with not knowing what exactly to do about this 'side of me'. If you were to talk to me in my normal state-- I'd be like, fuck I just want to be normal..get this 'weird side out of me'. But if you were to talk to my in my slutty state, I'd hate you forever if you took away this side of me.

I think it's a balance-- even with my girlfriend, I haven't explained myself this far to her, because I know she'd just get completely weirded out-- so I'm just a normal person to her, that occasionally brings up a couple kinky desires to her. I think it's best to leave it that way, because some things are best left unsaid. If she ever wants to go further with me on kinky interests, I can slowly introduce more 'weirdness' into the fray, but at her comfort level. Ultimately, these kinky interests I have-- yet weird, are stuff for myself-- I asked your question earlier before on this forum, and the answer I took home was-- one definitely needs their 'me time'. Even if you have a wife or a girlfriend who you share a lot of your intimate details with, there's always going to be a limit on what they will tolerate (because they aren't you). That's why you need the 'me time'-- so you can do whatever the fuck you want to do :).

Sometimes the me time can be more fun than being with the girlfriend or the wife. Then you might prefer 'me time' to your significant other-- which could be fatal for your relationship if it continues to drag on. That's why you also work on your relationship with your significant other, and make the sex there just as great-- again balancing. If it ultimately isn't going anywhere, then yeah you gotta think about next steps for your relationship. Ultimately, I think the best way to bring up the fetishes you have to a partner is to mention them often and up front in the relationship (as opposed to waiting years). Even if they don't approve 100%, I'll still take a 50% approval over a 0% approval (which would mean I couldn't do my fetish at all).

So, yah -- sorry for the long post-- basically the gist is (for TLDR), if it's something you enjoy-- you should definitely do it. Give yourself the 'me time' you desire-- and have fun with it. You can pretend your someone else if that helps, which is what I notice a lot of guys who have this fetish do-- (a lot like to pretend they are girls). I am really more a fan of guys who aren't feminized and just like to cum in their mouth (the classic solo suck stuff). But, yah sometimes being a girl can be fun too. You really can't judge yourself-- like Lexi Lapetina says in that 'psychiatrist style' video, 'Accept yourself, even if you're a little kinky'. Eventually others will have to accept it too or go away from your life-- but hopefully you can have them be a part of it. :)

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Re: How to get past that mental block?

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Sounds like you've come up with a smart and reasonable way to get what you need, man - glad you're working it out for yourself. And - no need to apologize for long posts!

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Thanks Al :) I am a little high right now so revisiting this question to share some new thoughts. I really think one should enjoy their sex drive to the fullest as possible whatever it may be (provided safe and legal lol).

In the end we're all just electrons that are attracted to fun positive energy. It only makes sense we are wired this way-- I think humans are biologically programmed to seek pleasure in whatever shape or form it may be-- eating cum is one way to do that. So enjoy it without shame, I guess the only 'shame' is what would other people think if they knew? But no one has to know unless you tell them.

Anyway I'm enjoying my cum so much right now... Mmm if you ever want to get over the block just do it; get on your back, legs over head and edge right to the end. Do it a couple times until you can do it regularly and focus on enjoying the beautiful taste, so pleasurable. In the end it gets recycled back into you and it's yours so you are doing yourself a favor by not letting it go to waste. Haha. Enjoy!

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I feel your pain, I've been trying for years and I've never been able to get past it... Yet sometimes (like now) theres nothing i want more than to cum in my mouth, swirl it around my mouth and swallow it. Everytime I immediately regret it, then an hour or two later I want to do it again.

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Can you say more specifically what you mean when you say you regret it? Do you feel guilty, or grossed-out, or...

The only problem I've ever had with it is not liking the taste of my cum much, but that's never stopped me from enjoying the experience immensely!

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Re: How to get past that mental block?

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When I was young, I used to have feelings of shame, maybe regret. But I felt that way about all forms of masturbation. And even sex since I was introduced to it fairly young. However, as I got older, I built the position or approach to my sexual fulfilment to "as long as I'm not hurting anyone, I'm not doing anything wrong." This helped me to get over any regrets and shame I may have had. However I still had a lot of apprehension about discussing these feelings and activities with any friends or family members, save one; my step-brother. He and I were very supportive of each other once we were in our late teens, but earlier on, I remember us constantly telling each other, "This is the last time."

In the end, remember, its your body, and what you do with it in the privacy of your own home is nobody's business but your own. If you like it... do it. And most importantly, do it to enjoy it! If you don't enjoy it, try something else. If you can't enjoy it, its not worth it. However, there it no trick to it. Many people will tell you different things. And they're all trying to be helpful. So take everyone's opinions and hints and helpful suggestions and consider them. Everyone has a switch that pushes them over the edge. I rarely swallow my cum. Maybe once every 20-30 loads. However, I usually do if I'm making a video. My exhibitionism pushes my arousal meter past overload and makes me do things I normally don't do. Call it my need to show off. :)

Good luck, keep your thoughts light and your mind open and enjoyment should be coming soon. Or is that cumming soon? ;)
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Re: How to get past that mental block?

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At first it was tough for me also. Usually it consisted of me edging and then blasting towards my mouth but at the last second I closed my mouth and came on my face. After awhile I worked my way to cumming on my face and using my tongue to lick up small dabs and swallow them. After awhile I just edged and made myself open my mouth and swallow a little at a time. At this point I just cum in my hamd and lick it up in go and enjoy the texture and swallow it with a smile. Good luck to all that have second thoughts.

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Great posts by many people! Especially nickyricky. I think you are on point here. I thoroughly enjoyed reading your post, very well thought out stuff.

I, too, "get" why some people might feel they need to be "another person" to enjoy their own cum. Some people don't necessarily have, but feminization and acting like a "sissy" or a female turns them on and that's, of course, completely okay. On a sidenote, some of that stuff I do find hot, others not. The hot ones, to me, are usually guys or CDs or fembois or trannies who do a great job at their thing, are skinny, hot etc.

Own cum swallowing is such a "gay" step to take that most people don't in the first place. And to even enjoy it, that's going even further. Personally, this habit that I love and have practiced for years now has given me so much pleasure and widened my horizons, so to speak. "Even" I might be a little taken aback or even grossed out a little after milking a big load in my mouth and after the heat has calmed, but that goes away every time. I love experiencing the different flavors of cum I get, and experimenting with different supplements and foodstuffs to alter the taste and texture of my cum, mostly towards bigger loads, and thicker, richer, more gooey texture. :) It's funny that most women would find that gross but those kind of loads are the best and most exciting for me to swallow!
I'm on xHamster with lots of cum swallowing videos and my username is ThickSaltyandSweet also there :)

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Re: How to get past that mental block?

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i have forced myself on a few occasions to swallow. The easiest way for me to do that was to use a pair of belts tied to the best posts and slide my hand thru them, when i pull they get tight. I can eventually wiggle out of them but it takes a minute or two. once I've secured my hands from stopping me i stick my feet thru the slots on my headboard, its very difficult to get them thru and once the are... I'm kinda stuck!

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