Having Trouble Reaching Orgasm During Masturbation

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onyx777
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Having Trouble Reaching Orgasm During Masturbation

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Hello there!

Have a quick masturbating question. I tend to do it fairly often since as I recently started college and still have some free time. The problem is the sensation does not really seem to be as... "good" as it used to be when I first started out doing this (around 14 or 15). I feel like sometimes I am on the verge of an explosive "finish" but it falls short at the last minute (will feel the sensation but then when I cum it just sort of feels disappointing). Not really sure what I should be doing to fix this but is there anyway to make this more satisfying for me? Any other techniques or things I should try (broke freshman student here)?

P.S. I usually do the "stop and go" method so will go for a few minutes then stop and repeat a few times (to prolong it) before "finishing". Thanks!

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Interesting question!

I'm a little unclear on what exactly you're talking about, and I wonder if some info on ejaculation and orgasm might be helpful.

Do you know that ejaculation and orgasm are related but separate functions? It sounds like you might be talking about Edging when you mention the "stop and go" method, but I"m not sure. Edging involves taking yourself as close as you can to the "moment of inevitability" when it become possible to stop (full) ejaculation from happening, and sometimes (but not always) involves small, non-final ejaculations. It's a way to get some of the sensation of orgasm, often multiple times, without experiencing the "refractory period" most men have after a full ejaculation - that's the "Whew - I just came and now I'm going to have to wait a while before I can do anything else" thing most of us have (to varying degrees at various times) after we squirt.

Does that make sense and is it what you're talking about with the "stop and go" method?

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I think I was referring more to the sensation when climaxing or finishing. I meant yes I edge a few times (do the stop and go) but when I finish, after all the build-up, the sensation is kind of disappointing. I feel like it could be more intense (like I am falling short) if that makes sense?

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How does it feel if you don't edge? A lot of men have their most intense orgasmic sensations if they edge and build up to it, but it's always been the opposite for me - if I want to have a really intense final orgasm I'm usually better off NOT edging. Working myself up and having a final, ejaculatory orgasm the first time I feel the orgasmic sensations building will usually give me the most intense, concentrated orgasm.

Do you do that and do the sensations differ?

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@aleingang69, I generally do not masturbate without edging. Generally it is because I do not... last that long if I do not edge. On a good day maybe 4 or 5 minutes but more often maybe 2 minutes approximately. Usually jack off while watching porn so it almost feels like a waste of a video or something if I do not even last that long haha. That is why I edge. I have occasionally finished without edging by accident but it does not really shoot out, more like a slow ooze I guess? A little more shooting if I edge, you know? Just wish it was a more intense sensation as mentioned earlier just do not know what I am doing wrong.

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Hard to say, beyond general suggestions:

Do you tend to get yourself off the same way most of the time? Trying different hands, different lubes, maybe some toys of various kinds. Do you play with your butthole? Your nips?
If you're using porn a lot maybe take a short break from it and try to shift all of your focus to your sensations as you edge - there are whole universes of things to discover if you do that.

Good luck - keep us posted!

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How often are you masturbating? Once a day? Twice a day? I found that if I do any sort of masturbatory pleasure more than every other day, my orgasms are sub-par at best. I mean, I can cum sure, but if it ain't mind blowing, what's the point?
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To have your finishing strike a lot better, think of the person that really makes you arouse, men or women who ever on your mind that you think that can make you feel way better and always hits your attention whenever you see them.

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