Ok so I have had a few partners over the years and have been selfsucking since I was 14. So more than 10 years. One of my partners really liked it and we had sex almost every night for 3 years. A couple of my other partners thought it was "crazy" or were a bit shocked, but none were ever really into it. So I started looking at porn, and I love it! Just self suck and self fuck mostly, seeing other guys talents .... and that they can get them self off that way is so hot and amazing to me.
My current partner and I have been together for 3 years and have sexual differences. He only likes to do one position, and one thing, and it gets very boring. We have tried other things, but it always reverts back to same 'ol. He has said over the years that my selfsucking habit is weird and that it "takes away intimacy between us" I beg to differ. He wants to have sex so he can get off and gets really mad when I don't have sex with him like every 3 days. He also said my looking at porn is wrong, and has said porn in general is wrong and evil and that we shouldn't look at porn because it drives a wedge between us.
He told me I should talk to my therapist about it ... so I did, not the porn part as much, but about masturbation and my therapist is like "it's my body and it's natural". I have talked to a couple close friends about it and they have said the same thing.
I really enjoy selfsucking, and looking at porn over the years, and I really don't like feeling ashamed about it, or that it's wrong. I think mine and my partners issue is more that I am not attracted to him and every time I try to make it work something along these lines happen.
This experience in this relationship has made me want to end it, and stay single! I have wanted to find another person who selfsucks .... so they understand, and it's fucking hot! But we're a rare bunch. Am I wrong for wanting this? It's just like my ultimate turn on and I want to share it, not hide it. I also enjoy other things, but find it hard to connect if someone is not accepting in the selfsucking department lol.
I know this is heavy and long, but you guys selfsuck, or have, so I am wondering if people have been in similar situations, or how they reconciled looking at porn, or selfsucking ...
This has all given me anxiety ... I've stopped stretching and enjoying "me time" which is something that I miss ... and hope I get back soon.
Thanks
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Re: Selfsuck and relationships
Thanks for opening up, man - that's part of what the Forums are for - helping each other figure out EVERY aspect of our favorite sport.
Relationships are always complicated, and with 2 men we have even less social support, and less tradition reinforcing things (which is not always a bad thing).
I don't particularly believe in the whole Porn Addiction thing, but there are definitely people who find that using lots of porn makes it hard to have relationships and sex with other people. If you feel good about mostly having sex with yourself and watching porn then it isn't a problem - if it works for you, it works, right?
Have you tried doing couple's therapy? Sometimes you can talk things through with another person there to keep things moving along. If your partner is unable to expand your sexual repertoire and has really different attitudes about solosex then maybe it just isn't a great match, at least on the sexual front. Is the relationship open at all? Sometimes it's good to be partners in life but less so in bed.
I hope things work out well for you, buddy!
Al
Relationships are always complicated, and with 2 men we have even less social support, and less tradition reinforcing things (which is not always a bad thing).
I don't particularly believe in the whole Porn Addiction thing, but there are definitely people who find that using lots of porn makes it hard to have relationships and sex with other people. If you feel good about mostly having sex with yourself and watching porn then it isn't a problem - if it works for you, it works, right?
Have you tried doing couple's therapy? Sometimes you can talk things through with another person there to keep things moving along. If your partner is unable to expand your sexual repertoire and has really different attitudes about solosex then maybe it just isn't a great match, at least on the sexual front. Is the relationship open at all? Sometimes it's good to be partners in life but less so in bed.
I hope things work out well for you, buddy!
Al
Re: Selfsuck and relationships
Hey yngm...
You might not be bad off being single for awhile. You know what to do to have fun, even though no-one is there to play with.
Take some time to find another self sucker right here on this board. There are many self suckers right here. You could invite others to chat or video chat, and get to know someone, and you might find a soul mate.
It's a dream a lot of us have, because only self suckers can really understand other self suckers. Relationships are difficult especially without a sympathetic partner.
And you are right...self sucking is hot!
Best of luck,
Eddie
[yngm...This experience in this relationship has made me want to end it, and stay single! I have wanted to find another person who selfsucks .... so they understand, and it's fucking hot!]
You might not be bad off being single for awhile. You know what to do to have fun, even though no-one is there to play with.
Take some time to find another self sucker right here on this board. There are many self suckers right here. You could invite others to chat or video chat, and get to know someone, and you might find a soul mate.
It's a dream a lot of us have, because only self suckers can really understand other self suckers. Relationships are difficult especially without a sympathetic partner.
And you are right...self sucking is hot!
Best of luck,
Eddie
[yngm...This experience in this relationship has made me want to end it, and stay single! I have wanted to find another person who selfsucks .... so they understand, and it's fucking hot!]
