Daily selfsucks, considering as addiction?

[selfsuxxer]

Anyone here who sucks daily or even several times a day, and ever thought this activities has become a real addiction to yourself? Society knows about porn addiction, but is there also a selfsuck addiction?

Speaking for myself, I go through phases. In what I call „high“ phases, I suck it daily and edging orally several times during the day. Whenever I have the chance, I lick or suck on it, even when it’s just a for a few seconds or minutes. The smell of my dick is so arousing, that I immediately need to taste it. I get such a strong urge to selfsuck. If I don’t do it I have hard times to concentrate on other activities and even struggling to fall asleep at night.

If I reduce my activities to 2-4x week, to what I call „lower“ phases, the urge to selfsuck and thinking of it lowers a bit. This observation of myself made me think of it as a real addiction, similar to smoking cigarettes or weed. The often you smoke, the more you want it, and the more you do it. If you smoke less, the desire becomes also less. I read recently a book about dopamine and addiction and aside from known substances, you can also be addicted to other activities or behavior.

Anyone else ever though about this, based on your selfsuck behavior? I guess this addictive feeling may only apply to those who can effortlessly suck it, or with minimal effort. If you can do it without much effort and you do it more, this increases the flexibility and depth, which resonates then again in the urge of doing it even more. Like a loop.
If you need a lot of effort (long warm up etc.) and you even might get some physical pain, this reduce automatically the ability of doing it more often.

Which leads to my final question or conclusion: You always have the flexibility and your cock is right there as well as your mouth. So If you get the urge to suck it, why not bring your cock and mouth together whenever it’s possible by your surrounding. Giving in this this physical desire whenever it appears? Let your body just do what it intends to do.
But can something you can do to yourself, without any other help, be even considered as addiction? You don’t need any substances, nothing else physically and also no other visual stimulation like you would have to with porn addiction. While selfsuck, you also purely focus on your self, compared to masturbation where there is a lot of „distraction“.
It’s your body who creates the desire, and it’s your own body who can completely alone fulfill this desire. Then maybe it’s not an addiction at all, it’s just a very normal physical desire you have as a selfsucker, like going to the toilet Your balls wants to release your semen and the most easiest, most fulfilling way is to use your mouth. Your body rewards itself with an orgasm, then you shoot and you recharge it immediately. The semen doesn’t even to release your body. And the loop begins again.

Let me know your thoughts about addiction and selfsuck.

[Selferbro]

Bro I watch your vids and you are so intense when you suck on yourself. It’s fever pitch. It’s like nothing is going to get in between you and your semen! Nothing! It’s clear your want it spurting in your mouth and man I love it!
I feel the same as you. I don’t have the ability to suck myself off multiple times a day - I’m lucky if it’s omce a week - hence I can only suck on the head - oh, and my sack (which I love immensely. My nuts are my go to place lol as they are very sensitive to tongue and suck on - either with a coating of fur or shaved).
I’d love to deep throat my cock but I need more time to practice.
Yes it’s a self addiction for sure. And not one I appear to need to break lol. I need that regular taste of my cock and those warm spurts of semen straight out of it
Fuck yeah

[aleingang69]

I think "addiction" is an overused term, and is often misused. There are men who get a sexual charge from seeing their desires and activities as addictions, and - if they enjoy that, that's great.

I would ask - is this a negative force in my life? Am I doing things that might mess my life up because of it? If not - whether you want to think of as addictive or not - I don't think it's a negative thing at all. We are lucky, lucky men and I say - just enjoy your extraordinary talents!

[Happy Boy]

well, there are physical and mental addictions. physically there is that release of endorphins and dopamine that you mentioned. i haven't read a book on it so you probably know more about it than i do, but i would think that a person could become dependent on those chemicals just like any other mood altering substance.

that said, it doesn't seem to affect me. there have been a few times in my life where i lost the ability to reach due to life changes (usually gaining weight while unemployed), and i never suffered any physical issues from the loss (that i am aware of). of course that could also be because i never stopped masturbating and i was still getting those chemicals from the release, just through a different method.

even on the mental side...i often worry about having an addictive personality, but don't seem to have a problem with this either. during those 'down times' every now and then i would think to myself, "if you started doing some sit-ups, you could probably reach again.", but never found the motivation. my understanding of addiction is that i would have found that motivation and made it an unconditional priority.

you might be on to something with the frequency and 'ease of doing it' thing...those times when i lost it: as it got harder for me to reach, i would do it less often. that lack of practicing made it even harder to reach the next time in an ever-spiraling decline until i just gave up trying (until life changed again and i started losing the weight). maybe i weened myself off of my cock slowly enough, or maybe i'm just not as susceptible to addiction as i fear that i am.

...and to counter all of that (LOL!) al mentioned something that i have heard about addiction before: if it isn't harming anyone, then it is OK. going by that definition, i'm not so sure i am 'in the clear' after all. i do most of my selfing late at night (actually in the early morning) after everyone else goes to bed. that is also when i check up on sites like here, reddit, and a few others. i can't tell you how many nights i only get three or four hours of sleep because i stayed up later than i should have chasing those endorphins...or how often i only stop because i know people will be waking up soon (or how often i do it again in bed after they are up). as depressed as i am that the mrs. isn't that interested in sex any more, there have been a few mornings when she was ready (or at least willing) and i wasn't because i had just sucked myself off a few hours ago and i don't always recover like i did a few years ago. i mean that is pretty low on the scale as far as 'self harm' goes, but it does cross my mind occasionally...

and the last bit? yeah...sometimes when i am changing clothes or sitting on the toilet or whatever releases my cock and puts it in my sights, i bend down and give it a kiss or suck it to a quick erection then let it go back down (and sometimes i keep going until i cum, lol!) i haven't done that for a while actually, definitely need to start doing it more often again!

[Polevaulter69]

No, I wouldn’t call it an addiction at all. I had been in my own apartment about 3 months and was 19 and in awesome physical shape when I got really heavy into selfing. I was doing yoga, stretching, eating right so the taste of my cum would get better, and reading everything I could find on the subject. At first I was all about deepthroating and seeing how much length I could take in, and how long I could stay down without coming up for air. Some days I would fall into a quickie 10-minute session (mostly w/o orgasm) 4-5 times a day, just to look for improvement. Once I fell into a routine where I realized that sustained pleasure and controlled breathing was better, I was selfing 1-2 times a day for about 4-5 days a week. It’s true, the more you do it, the more you want. It’s an incredibly relaxing state of mind to be in. Sometimes I still tell myself right after an orgasm, “fuck yeah, definitely doing this again today.” Selfing immediately satisfies so many emotional and physical needs so quickly that it almost seems wrong somehow. It gives you a warm, safe, and happy place to go in your head where you know just what will happen, how to make it better, and how exactly your session will end. That’s a powerful motivator for returning to a recreational experience.

Even when I was heavy into it every day I never considered it addictive though. Self-sucking is still after all an extreme form of masturbation right? The form of stimulation changes, but the response is generally the same, just more intense.

Your numbers are consistent with someone with a healthy, regular masturbation lifestyle. The endorphin and dopamine release is still consistent with that of a regular masturbator. What probably “feels” addictive about it is the psychological and emotional needs you’re probably also fulfilling to some degree on a regular basis, such as the need for intimacy, to provide and accept love (even to yourself), the need for both dominance and submissiveness, unrestrained lust, privacy, selfishness, anxiety relief, depression, etc. everyone has unfulfilled degrees of these things in their life at times and satisfying them in this way can feel kind of weird. Selfing is very different psychologically than traditional masturbation and that’s probably why it’s such a taboo practice. Hundreds of years ago nobody had a psychology framework to describe the “post-orgasm number” it does on your head, therefore it was “bad”, because anything that makes you feel good, or better mentally has to be evil and unnatural.

My advice is to let go of worries about addiction. Self-sucking is physically demanding, so at some point there’s a limit to how often you go there. Yeah, sometimes you’ll blow off dinner with your friends for a quiet evening of autofellatio, but sometimes you need it. Ask yourself what psychological need you’re getting out of self-sucking and if that’s what’s really making you feel uneasy. I came up a middle child from a big family and grew up with constant noise and chaos from brothers and sisters who were all up in everyone’s business constantly. For me selfing fulfilled my craving for peace and quiet isolation, intimacy, and raw, carnal lust for flesh. At one point I was asking myself why I felt guilty about feeling so happy after A session. If you’re balancing you work, family, social, and private time responsibly though then I say use the gifts you were given to help yourself feel good and treat yourself whenever you can.

[PT1962Redux]

What probably “feels” addictive about it is the psychological and emotional needs you’re probably also fulfilling to some degree on a regular basis, such as the need for intimacy, to provide and accept love (even to yourself), the need for both dominance and submissiveness, unrestrained lust, privacy, selfishness, anxiety relief, depression, etc. everyone has unfulfilled degrees of these things in their life at times and satisfying them in this way can feel kind of weird. Selfing is very different psychologically than traditional masturbation and that’s probably why it’s such a taboo practice. Hundreds of years ago nobody had a psychology framework to describe the “post-orgasm number” it does on your head, therefore it was “bad”, because anything that makes you feel good, or better mentally has to be evil and unnatural.

I really appreciate this full response, especially the part above. I've studied sexuality a little and have struggled to find the right words to talk about what selfsucking is and why it can feel so powerful and "addictive," and I think you are right about it and saying things much better than I can.

When I was in my 20s and early 30s, I was sucking myself every day and it started to take on new meaning for me because it salved some psychological distress and felt so right. It helped me sort out my emotions and feel self-esteem and joy about myself I was lacking. All sex is just hormones and nerve activation for "pleasure," but humans have complex emotional experiences based on stimulation of our nervous system. So sexual acts can mean more than just "that felt good." Regular masturbation felt good to me, but selfsucking opened up a huge new range of emotions like tenderness, intimacy, power, and desire. I need those--I'd argue we all do--and selfsucking has been my way of feeling them.

I never thought of it as an addiction, but I was "obsessed" with it, mostly, I think, because I wanted outlets to explore it and ask about it and share it the way other people share their sexualities without even worrying about it. But I did struggle with the taboo nature of it, feeling like I was psychologically damaged for this desire to have my dick in my mouth. The vulnerability of cumming while I"m sucking myself is profound, and can feel wrong and intensify feeling like this thing I'm doing is wrong, too.

But that's where the language of "addiction" feels problematic to me because it is the language of diagnosis and treatment that can keep people from exploring the emotional fulfillment of selfsucking.

Of course, I consider myself an "autofellator" as a sexual orientation or "sexuality" now. That may seem like a stretch for some people and labels for sexual orientation can get bogged down in all the same rhetoric of diagnosis and treatment. Nonetheless, I think of being an autofellator as different from "autosexuality" and "solosexuality" in that, while I do masturbate through other means and generally don't seek sex with others, it is specifically selfsucking that has the much more significant psychological and emotional component for me. It draws me back over and over again and I find myself happier the more I accept that.

[Polevaulter69]

I never thought of it as an addiction, but I was "obsessed" with it, mostly, I think, because I wanted outlets to explore it and ask about it and share it the way other people share their sexualities without even worrying about it. But I did struggle with the taboo nature of it, feeling like I was psychologically damaged for this desire to have my dick in my mouth. The vulnerability of cumming while I"m sucking myself is profound, and can feel wrong and intensify feeling like this thing I'm doing is wrong, too.

But that's where the language of "addiction" feels problematic to me because it is the language of diagnosis and treatment that can keep people from exploring the emotional fulfillment of selfsucking.

Yeah, I think “obsessed” is more accurate for me. I keep coming back to it for several reasons that really go deep and address what makes me tick. I’m pretty introverted and socially awkward. I have a girlfriend and have had several over the years, but selfing is a private, hedonistic relationship I have that services a lot of psychological wants and needs for me that I’m not yet comfortable allowing another person to be a part of. For me when I’m selfing it’s like going into a secret, private room that only I have access to. When I get into a steady comfortable rhythm and don’t have to think about adjusting my shoulders or slow my breathing down, or all the things we do to make ourselves comfortable my thoughts tend to go in strange and primitive directions that oddly help me work out the more complicated higher-thought needs I have going on.

[selfsuxxer]

Thanks guys for those responses and your view / advices on this topic. I would fully agree that obsession is the correct term for it. And I think we are all obsessed about your penis to a certain way, but with selfsuck it's just another level.

and yes there is this psychological hurdle of selfsuck, meaning everyone is quite open about masturbation / sex, especially in younger years. But selfsuck is something differently. Maybe because others would see it as weird. But in the recent years, I overcame this, probably nowadays I would even say I am pretty proud of my skills. And I think, every guy who could stimulate him this way would do it, 100% sure.