So I still do a little solo sucking every once in awhile. I was super flexible and in great shape, then I tweaked my back at work of all places. It put me out of commission for awhile.
So now I am back in full force, and I had a great session last night, except that... I couldn't stay hard in my best positions. I swear, if its not one thing its another.
Are some positions better than others for staying hard? Seems like C position is best for staying hard. I dunno, its frustrating.
Frustrating Days
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aleingang69
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Re: Frustrating Days
Are you having problems staying hard in other - non-selfing - situations? If so I'd see a doctor.
If not maybe you can give us more details about what positions you're having problems in.
We men are great at psyching ourselves out when it comes to hardons - the second you start to worry about it it becomes a vicious cycle - it's a little soft, you worry, it gets softer, you worry more, you focus on it not being hard and then you can't get it hard...
There's resources online for focusing exercises you can do to help you to deal with that if you think it's that kind of problem. Think of it as an opportunity to learn about yourself and improve your ability to focus!
On the physiological front: the only time I've had the total "mister-softy won't go away" problem is if I have my hand up my ass and I go into the plow position. If I'm sitting or standing up I'm hard as a rock, but as soon as I go into plow it's goodbye boner! Weird but true.
AL
If not maybe you can give us more details about what positions you're having problems in.
We men are great at psyching ourselves out when it comes to hardons - the second you start to worry about it it becomes a vicious cycle - it's a little soft, you worry, it gets softer, you worry more, you focus on it not being hard and then you can't get it hard...
There's resources online for focusing exercises you can do to help you to deal with that if you think it's that kind of problem. Think of it as an opportunity to learn about yourself and improve your ability to focus!
On the physiological front: the only time I've had the total "mister-softy won't go away" problem is if I have my hand up my ass and I go into the plow position. If I'm sitting or standing up I'm hard as a rock, but as soon as I go into plow it's goodbye boner! Weird but true.
AL
Re: Frustrating Days
ya, I have NO problems with erections whatsoever, HOWEVER in deep SS positions, I will lose it. Most of the time, I have to stroke my cock to keep it while in SS positons.
Re: Frustrating Days
I have no problem except when I am solo sucking. It must be in my mind...
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blacksunshineaz
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Re: Frustrating Days
The only thing I can think is maybe you're restricting the flow of blood to the penis or something when in position. But that's only a theory. I've been there too, and I require constant stroking if I want to stay hard when trying to suck myself.
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aleingang69
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Re: Frustrating Days
I wouldn't assume that it's a mental thing - there could be a physiological thing going on. You say you used to solosuck and then stopped for a while due to injury - is this a new problem since you've started up again?
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i'm with sunshine on this one...i know from personal experience that i don't get the blood flow i need for a good erection in some positions. one of the reasons i seldom use the 'plow' position is the lessened blood flow when my cock is above the rest of my body (like when you get light headed if you stand up quickly after lying down). even in the 'C' which usually works best for me, i can have a hard time (or a *not* hard time, as it were) if i have to strain hard and squeeze really tightly constricting the blood flow...
